Rejection

What is REJECTION? This is defined by The Free Dictionary by Farlex :-

1. The act of rejecting or the state of being rejected. 
2. Something rejected.
3. Medicine. The failure of a recipient's body to accept a transplanted tissue or organ as the result of immunological incompatability; immunological resistance to foreign tissue.

My previous relationship was working fine until there is someone or somebody out there has given that "Bastard" an idea that religion incompatible when he promised me at the initial stage of dating that he does not mind to have me despite religion differences. But when I came acrossed with him about the future planning, he gave me an execuse of "Religion Incompatible" and I do not respect for that kind of reason, no matter what. Hence, this is the rejection I had from him being in the relationship for four years and knowing him for six years.

Since then, I never spoken to him. I have totally ignored him as a person. I despised him at the every bottom of my heart. He shattered my heart just like

"the glass is broken into pieces, it will be never have the same figure as before".

At times, the feeling is so horrible and I cried almost everyday asking "why is there rejection?", "why there is a sudden change of heart?", "why I have been asking him harshly and further details about the future planning?"... and asking so many reasons of "WHYs?" at times. My soul hurts so much until I could not forgive and forgotten on his words. He never apologized and never felt sorry that he had wasted my time. He is so coward to apologize! Since then, I could not forgive and forget until one day that I have came acrossed a quote (by 101 Powerful Affirmations), which stated that :-

Forgive Those Who Insult You, Attack You, Belittle You or Take You For Granted.

But More Than This...

Forgive Yourself For Allowing Them To Hurt You

Wow, this quote is so strong to define me at this situation! This is what I needed. I need to FORGIVE MYSELF instead I forgive the "Bastard", so that, in future I will not allow anyone to hurt me including myself. Since then, I have learnt ... 

Rejection in all its forms can sometimes be one of the best things that ever happens to you. It forces you to look deep inside, re-evaluate your worth and reaffirm who you are and what you have to offer.

Rejection can be the Miracle Grow you've been needing to take yourself to the next level.

~ Mind Movies ~

Yes, I agreed the quote above. Rejection is a way to look my ownself, my deeper self. Without this rejection, I would not have, that is called "Miracle Grow". With this rejection, I know that I should not have a relationship with this "Bastard" anymore. So...

Swiftly, after the rejection of "religion incompatible"... I fell in love with someone who deserve more than the "Bastard". I'm happier than ever. No regrets that I have been rejected by the "Bastard". He was there for me at times when I was at my saddest moment. He lifted up my soul. I missed him every moment and his laughter. So I thanked you "Bastard" to reject me and allowing me to find someone better than you. 

Anyway, this "Bastard" and a girl friend of mine that I used to hang out were into relationship. That is why he mentioned "religion incompatible" because of my friend whom has the "religion compatible" with him. So this is the Christian's favourite action!

I shall see your KARMA that is going to hit you in near future. Watch Out!

 

Relationship

Do you agree with this type of relationship? I believe my relationship with my dear is like this one below :- 

Yes, my relationship with my dear is like Tom & Jerry. Indeed, we likes to tease each other, knock down each other and irritate each other... without all these of actions, both of us felt our world are empty. We would wondered about each other doings when we are in the mellowed mood and not meeting face-to-face. I felt a lot with my dear, with him in the relationship that is called "JOY & HAPPINESS". Just like this picture paint a thousand words:-

Unlike my previous relationship, with whom an another girl likes him, does called him the "BRAINY", cannot even take jokes or teased (not sure why that girl really likes about him). He became very sensitive and sometimes could not understand what is my jokes all about... and he is not sure to laugh or reply my jokes. When he started to joke, I felt the I'm not buying to his "stupid" jokes because it is not funny to laugh at all and it is really L.A.M.E.... with only ha... haa....or huh? Oh well.... an Ex Boyfriend is... an "EX" because the relationship has ended forever. 

What about this type of friendship?

Do you think this a R.E.A.L friends to you?

I do not think so. They smile and call you something even more offensive? What if they called you  names like "Bitch", "Mother Fucker" or "Cheap Bastard"? You do not get offended when your friend called you names or insulted by them? Hmmm.... Darn interesting for this type of friendship! I think it will hurt the other friend's feelings even more because of their words into the offensive ways. Anyway, I would think this type of friend is really a RETARDED and no sense of Emotional Intelligence (EQ). 

A real friend will care their friend's feelings. They will treasure their friends and they really mean friendships without insulting each other further more. Do tell me, if that case, how do you value a REAL friendship when you feel insulted by them? To me I think this friend not a valuable friend. In return, if they called me something even more offensive, then, it would be like this:-

And sometimes we must not take someone's feeling for granted just like that because .... they will provoke and proven it to you further. No matter where we go we must always care for another friend's feelings, no matter what... if friendship is valuable. 

Anyway, whatever you are going to say to insult a REAL friend.... As always remember that your words that are out from your tongue will not able take back unless you, yourself, are going to eat back your own words. Your real friend is kind enough to forgive you but he/she will not forget whatever you had said to them once a upon a time. So, be kind to your own tongue in order for you value a REAL FRIENDSHIP.

The Awakening - Happy Wesak 2556

Wesak Day have passed by two days ago. I have read an article from the founder of Ti Ratana Pechala Community Centre - Christine Lai regarding that devotees should not be a Wesak Buddhist. It is should be continuous learning of the Dharma teachings rather than once a year devotees devote themselves to go temple to pray and ask for blessings.

For three wholesome years (ever since I have met my dear), I have not gone to Wesak Procession during the Wesak Day. I would love to go there but my vow to this is not 100%. However, I love to go for Dharma Talk on the normal days that is when I practiced in my daily life. It really inspired me about the KARMA of others' behaviour and doing, which is an example to be learnt.

Since last year until now, what does Dharma has taught me so far?

No.1

Don't blindly believe what I say. Don't believe me, nor another, based on how others convince you with words. Don't believe anything you read or hear, whether of tradition, authority, religious teachers or texts. Neither should you speculate, nor rely on logic alone. Don't be deceived by appearances. Find out for yourself what is true and virtuous. Abandon those things that lead to pain and suffering. 
     

~ The Buddha, Anguttara Nikaya, Kalama Sutta ~

Comment: I had believed a Christian guy from my past what he had promised at the beginning stage of dating each other. In the end, his promises has broken (he did not hold the promise because of another Christian girl). Now, I only believed "what is truth of the actions".

How could I believe words that are deceiving and it has blinded my sights to become a delusion!

No. 2

A Brahman saw the Buddha resting under a tree in meditation.
The Brahman was impressed with the Buddha's way.

He asked, "Are you a god?"

"No, Brahman, I'm not a god."

"Are you an angel?"

"No", replied the Buddha.

"You must be a spirit then?"

"No, I'm not a spirit," said the Buddha.

"Then what are you?"

"I'm awake."                                                 

~ The Buddha Quotes ~




And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom
~ Anais Nin ~

 

No. 3

I went to Dharma talk this year to catch Brother Jeff Oliver's teaching ~ a meditation teacher. Indeed, his Dharma talk so subtle that really make my heart is so peaceful since uneventful things have had happened in year 2010 to 2011. Without his Dharma talk, I could not understand why things are happening to me?

All this while I thought I could understand well the quote above.... but, until something had happened in my life, I EVEN UNDERSTAND IT FURTHER for the true meaning... The Dharma has taught me :

~ Things are past is past and let it go because it has gone. Do not dwelled what it had past ~

In conclusion, I have to keep on practice my Dharma, so that, I would not live my life that is deceiving and it become a delusion. I read somewhere in the Buddhist website :

Understand that you make your own destiny. Do not blame others. Be responsible, do your share and practice happiness. There are many good things in life to be joyous over. You just need to "Wipe The Dust From Your Eyes"