Forgiveness

On my previous post on Rejection, there is one part that I have posted a quote about F.O.R.G.I.V.E.N.E.S.S.

Forgive Those Who Insult You, Attack You, Belittle You or Take You For Granted.

But More Than This...

Forgive Yourself For Allowing Them To Hurt You

How do you actually forgive, that is the question you might be asking your deeper self? I have learnt by forgiving is learning to be GRATITUDE to the good things that he/she has done for you in the past. If that person had already insult you, attack you, belittle you or take you for granted; the best way is by saying THANK YOU everyday for those good things they have done for you at that moment of your life. Gradually, those feelings will slowly eliminate by itself day by day and you will slowly start to appreciate those little things that person was there at the moment in your life. Indeed, it works for me. In fact, I can sleep well everyday without dreams. By saying THANK YOU before I go to bed to rest my body, mind and soul helps me to sleep peacefully because of the positive energy flowing into your blood stream. I could feel happier now. I no longer need to hold the grudges that had already hurt me in the past.

No one in this world whom cannot forgive because we are all humans with kind-heart. How long will you hold those grudge? One, three, five years or forever? Do you think holding this grudge it seems like your shoulder is heavier than usual? As the matter of fact, when time passes by... you will tend to forgive to that person because their doings had past and no longer important to us. Most of us will hope that person will be a better person and also you do not want to involve anything with that person whom had hurt you in the past. 

Because of the past experienced which had hurt you so much, it could be a blessing thing. In way, it is a blessing because you do not need to live up with that person anymore...

It is a rebirth of YOU, YOURSELF!

In conclusion, always forgive this people that mentioned below, by FORGIVING to a person makes a beautiful you in your character and attitude ^_^  People around you will like you even more because of your good attitude.

Also, remember must FORGIVE SINCERELY... if not, you are faking yourself out of your character, that is not going to be the best thing because you lied to yourself.

Tell yourself today that

 I'M BEAUTIFUL PEOPLE 

&

 I SINCERELY FORGIVE MYSELF FOR ALLOWING PEOPLE TO HURT ME. 

Rejection

What is REJECTION? This is defined by The Free Dictionary by Farlex :-

1. The act of rejecting or the state of being rejected. 
2. Something rejected.
3. Medicine. The failure of a recipient's body to accept a transplanted tissue or organ as the result of immunological incompatability; immunological resistance to foreign tissue.

My previous relationship was working fine until there is someone or somebody out there has given that "Bastard" an idea that religion incompatible when he promised me at the initial stage of dating that he does not mind to have me despite religion differences. But when I came acrossed with him about the future planning, he gave me an execuse of "Religion Incompatible" and I do not respect for that kind of reason, no matter what. Hence, this is the rejection I had from him being in the relationship for four years and knowing him for six years.

Since then, I never spoken to him. I have totally ignored him as a person. I despised him at the every bottom of my heart. He shattered my heart just like

"the glass is broken into pieces, it will be never have the same figure as before".

At times, the feeling is so horrible and I cried almost everyday asking "why is there rejection?", "why there is a sudden change of heart?", "why I have been asking him harshly and further details about the future planning?"... and asking so many reasons of "WHYs?" at times. My soul hurts so much until I could not forgive and forgotten on his words. He never apologized and never felt sorry that he had wasted my time. He is so coward to apologize! Since then, I could not forgive and forget until one day that I have came acrossed a quote (by 101 Powerful Affirmations), which stated that :-

Forgive Those Who Insult You, Attack You, Belittle You or Take You For Granted.

But More Than This...

Forgive Yourself For Allowing Them To Hurt You

Wow, this quote is so strong to define me at this situation! This is what I needed. I need to FORGIVE MYSELF instead I forgive the "Bastard", so that, in future I will not allow anyone to hurt me including myself. Since then, I have learnt ... 

Rejection in all its forms can sometimes be one of the best things that ever happens to you. It forces you to look deep inside, re-evaluate your worth and reaffirm who you are and what you have to offer.

Rejection can be the Miracle Grow you've been needing to take yourself to the next level.

~ Mind Movies ~

Yes, I agreed the quote above. Rejection is a way to look my ownself, my deeper self. Without this rejection, I would not have, that is called "Miracle Grow". With this rejection, I know that I should not have a relationship with this "Bastard" anymore. So...

Swiftly, after the rejection of "religion incompatible"... I fell in love with someone who deserve more than the "Bastard". I'm happier than ever. No regrets that I have been rejected by the "Bastard". He was there for me at times when I was at my saddest moment. He lifted up my soul. I missed him every moment and his laughter. So I thanked you "Bastard" to reject me and allowing me to find someone better than you. 

Anyway, this "Bastard" and a girl friend of mine that I used to hang out were into relationship. That is why he mentioned "religion incompatible" because of my friend whom has the "religion compatible" with him. So this is the Christian's favourite action!

I shall see your KARMA that is going to hit you in near future. Watch Out!

 

Relationship

Do you agree with this type of relationship? I believe my relationship with my dear is like this one below :- 

Yes, my relationship with my dear is like Tom & Jerry. Indeed, we likes to tease each other, knock down each other and irritate each other... without all these of actions, both of us felt our world are empty. We would wondered about each other doings when we are in the mellowed mood and not meeting face-to-face. I felt a lot with my dear, with him in the relationship that is called "JOY & HAPPINESS". Just like this picture paint a thousand words:-

Unlike my previous relationship, with whom an another girl likes him, does called him the "BRAINY", cannot even take jokes or teased (not sure why that girl really likes about him). He became very sensitive and sometimes could not understand what is my jokes all about... and he is not sure to laugh or reply my jokes. When he started to joke, I felt the I'm not buying to his "stupid" jokes because it is not funny to laugh at all and it is really L.A.M.E.... with only ha... haa....or huh? Oh well.... an Ex Boyfriend is... an "EX" because the relationship has ended forever. 

What about this type of friendship?

Do you think this a R.E.A.L friends to you?

I do not think so. They smile and call you something even more offensive? What if they called you  names like "Bitch", "Mother Fucker" or "Cheap Bastard"? You do not get offended when your friend called you names or insulted by them? Hmmm.... Darn interesting for this type of friendship! I think it will hurt the other friend's feelings even more because of their words into the offensive ways. Anyway, I would think this type of friend is really a RETARDED and no sense of Emotional Intelligence (EQ). 

A real friend will care their friend's feelings. They will treasure their friends and they really mean friendships without insulting each other further more. Do tell me, if that case, how do you value a REAL friendship when you feel insulted by them? To me I think this friend not a valuable friend. In return, if they called me something even more offensive, then, it would be like this:-

And sometimes we must not take someone's feeling for granted just like that because .... they will provoke and proven it to you further. No matter where we go we must always care for another friend's feelings, no matter what... if friendship is valuable. 

Anyway, whatever you are going to say to insult a REAL friend.... As always remember that your words that are out from your tongue will not able take back unless you, yourself, are going to eat back your own words. Your real friend is kind enough to forgive you but he/she will not forget whatever you had said to them once a upon a time. So, be kind to your own tongue in order for you value a REAL FRIENDSHIP.

The Awakening - Happy Wesak 2556

Wesak Day have passed by two days ago. I have read an article from the founder of Ti Ratana Pechala Community Centre - Christine Lai regarding that devotees should not be a Wesak Buddhist. It is should be continuous learning of the Dharma teachings rather than once a year devotees devote themselves to go temple to pray and ask for blessings.

For three wholesome years (ever since I have met my dear), I have not gone to Wesak Procession during the Wesak Day. I would love to go there but my vow to this is not 100%. However, I love to go for Dharma Talk on the normal days that is when I practiced in my daily life. It really inspired me about the KARMA of others' behaviour and doing, which is an example to be learnt.

Since last year until now, what does Dharma has taught me so far?

No.1

Don't blindly believe what I say. Don't believe me, nor another, based on how others convince you with words. Don't believe anything you read or hear, whether of tradition, authority, religious teachers or texts. Neither should you speculate, nor rely on logic alone. Don't be deceived by appearances. Find out for yourself what is true and virtuous. Abandon those things that lead to pain and suffering. 
     

~ The Buddha, Anguttara Nikaya, Kalama Sutta ~

Comment: I had believed a Christian guy from my past what he had promised at the beginning stage of dating each other. In the end, his promises has broken (he did not hold the promise because of another Christian girl). Now, I only believed "what is truth of the actions".

How could I believe words that are deceiving and it has blinded my sights to become a delusion!

No. 2

A Brahman saw the Buddha resting under a tree in meditation.
The Brahman was impressed with the Buddha's way.

He asked, "Are you a god?"

"No, Brahman, I'm not a god."

"Are you an angel?"

"No", replied the Buddha.

"You must be a spirit then?"

"No, I'm not a spirit," said the Buddha.

"Then what are you?"

"I'm awake."                                                 

~ The Buddha Quotes ~




And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom
~ Anais Nin ~

 

No. 3

I went to Dharma talk this year to catch Brother Jeff Oliver's teaching ~ a meditation teacher. Indeed, his Dharma talk so subtle that really make my heart is so peaceful since uneventful things have had happened in year 2010 to 2011. Without his Dharma talk, I could not understand why things are happening to me?

All this while I thought I could understand well the quote above.... but, until something had happened in my life, I EVEN UNDERSTAND IT FURTHER for the true meaning... The Dharma has taught me :

~ Things are past is past and let it go because it has gone. Do not dwelled what it had past ~

In conclusion, I have to keep on practice my Dharma, so that, I would not live my life that is deceiving and it become a delusion. I read somewhere in the Buddhist website :

Understand that you make your own destiny. Do not blame others. Be responsible, do your share and practice happiness. There are many good things in life to be joyous over. You just need to "Wipe The Dust From Your Eyes"

Fake Friends

I never before I had fake friends. Recently I have encountered one, even though I treat them nice... they just only want one thing, which is :-

A fake friend calls when they need something. A real friend calls to ask if you're in need.

Oh well, my fake friend checking on me whether I'm dating someone or not after I told her twin sister (another fake friend) that I'm dating someone and... so that, she can have my torn old shoe. She does not really concerned me as her friend by asking how am I (but only once out of the blue moon) because she only just wants one thing, which is my torn old shoe.

End of the day...

They are worst than a wild beast,

Wild beast will only wound your body,

But fake friends will wound your mind and soul

I would prefer to have this:-

A fake friend will only have a selfish thought just like the smell of the salted fish dry under the sun, whereby the flies love to go near them because of the "good aroma" on their body.

How can I be kind to the FAKE FRIENDS in the future?

The FAKE FRIENDS do not see the pain of other's feeling

Once FAKE FRIENDS hurt the feeling of others,

what would happened?

Because of one tree, it burnt the whole forest. Why? My perception towards Christian community have changed since then. They make me felt very unkind and selfish. They are more likely are FAKE FRIENDS to you.

TIME

To realize

the value of a sister/brother

ask someone
who doesn't have one.

To realize

the value of ten years:

ask a newly

divorced couple.

To realize

the value of four years:

ask a graduate.

To realize

the value of one year:

ask a student who

has failed a final exam.

To realize

the value of nine months:

ask a mother who gave birth to a stillborn.

  

To realize

the value of one month:

ask a mother

who has given birth to a premature baby..

To realize

the value of one minute:

ask a person

who has missed the train, bus or plane.

To realize

the value of one-second:

ask a person

who has survived an accident.

Time waits for no one.

treasure every moment you have.

You will treasure it even more when

you can share it with someone special.



Falling in Love is easy but staying in love is something very special

To realize the value of a friend or family member:

LOSE ONE.

Happiness

What is Happiness?

According to Wikipedia, Happiness is a mental or emotional state of well-being characterized by positive or pleasant emotions ranging from contentment to intense joy.

I believe finding someone special at heart that is who can make you L.A.U.G.H is very important in life. I do not agreed a FAKE FRIEND that once told me that the B.R.A.I.N.Y is far more important than someone who can make you laugh. How ignorant she is on this statement!

Indeed, I had someone who is brainy in the past, unfortunately, he does not have any Emotional Intelligence (EQ). At times my life was really plain. No thrilled, no excitement, no fun with jokes (because he never gets my jokes) and he only talked about politics which sound like he can changed the political system. He may sounds like the BRAINY one. Oh yes, I agreed to that... but acted like a fool of himself.

Anyway, I have found someone truly take cares of me. He not only can make me LAUGH, also he is the BRAINY and LAUGHABLE PERSON. We can talk humourously, smartly, intelligently, arguementatively and perhaps, more importantly sense on EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE unlike the FOOL... oppppssss.... what's the name called by the FAKE FRIEND.... Yes, the so called BRAINY. The only thing my dear and I don't have is that wealthy family status. But I really live happily together with him.... a very simple and joyful  life ^_^

Anyway, this is the one of the quote to LAW OF HAPPINESS :

"When one door closes another door opens"



This quote is so true especially to MY FAKE FRIEND whom does not speak the truth from the heart. 

To MY FAKE FRIEND,

whom wants the so-called BRAINY guy: -

So, what is the TRUE HAPPINESS?

From the Buddhist quote :-

HAPPINESS

 is a state of mind and it is a choice.
Do not wait for it from others or from circumstances.

It is always coming from YOU